Before all of this Tiger Woods hubbub came about one of my students came to me  and was upset because he thought his girl was cheating on her. He began concocting all these divisive plans of revenge. I asked him why he thought she was cheating and he said because she probably found out that he was cheating on her. This collegiate tomfoolery got me to thinking about the…

TOP 5 REASONS (young people) PEOPLE CHEAT.

5. Social Media

I know what you’re thinking, Facebook or Twitter or G-Chat or whatever can’t make someone cheat. Au Contraire mon Frère. These places have become breeding grounds for some sultry suspect behavior. All starts with the friendly out in the open comment or tweet which is not serious at all. Those little blips turn into playful banter which turns into private messages, which leads to the social media stalk. It begins with late night photo gawking, asking yourself, “Hmm, I wonder how she would look with me? Or Wow I never knew he had such a nice smile. After the back and forth flirting comes the texting. After the texting comes the potential phone call. After the phone call comes “let’s do lunch.” After lunch you both are still eating and thus cheating. Game Over.

4. Only Way Out

There comes a time where the relationship has to end but you have no clue how to get out. The exit strategy is to cheat. Who wants to be known as the person who dates a cheater? Not me. This is the optimum get out of jail free card. Had the US cheated on Iraq or Afghanistan maybe this war would’ve been over a long time ago. I kid, I kid. Or am I?

3. Case of the Ex

The ex is the most dangerous factor. Here’s some advice I received from a wise friend: Stay away from the Ex! If it ends well that only makes the cheating more inevitable. Sure it’s all over and yeah we’re just friends. Suddenly the next morning you wake up looking at each other asking how we got back here. But of course this magical experience was only one time and it didn’t mean anything. My friends, don’t get it twisted the EX is not safe. Even in the cases of a messy breakup, the first time you run into the EX with a hotter, cooler, lover, FINNITO

2. Definition

Girlfriend, My Man, Friends with Benefits, My Homie, all poppycot! I can’t think of how many times I’ve met two folks whose definition is unclear. One is saying how much they are feeling their girlfriend/boyfriend and how things are going so well. The other is hitting me with I hope they don’t think we’re serious. Her Facbook says “IN A RELATIONSHIP” and his says “IT’S COMPLICATED.” I present to you the infamous undefined. If we don’t know than it can

1. Boredom.

Excitement keeps every relationship alive. The lack thereof will likely lead to a break up or yup you guessed it, Cheating. If you were taking me out to the great shows and theater and now we’re watching one of these Tyler Perry programs, this may lead to cheating. If we were having great dinners and now we’re grilling up some cheese sandwiches that ans issue that may lead to cheating. If it goes from toe sucking to toenail clipping, that too may lead to cheating. If the sparks that lit up the relationship dim out well you get the point.

For the Record I’ve Never Cheated…well all depends on your definition of cheating of course!